It is important not to try to recover in a vacuum. You do need help from like-minded and empathetic survivors and trained professionals.. . Learning to trust others and to turn to them for support is a crucial step in recovery. Doing so challenges one of the basic notions that arises from a history of abuse: namely, that people are dangerous. [from ASCA “Survivor to Thriver” on-line workbook]
The ASCA workbook suggests listing “everyone you can think of whom you can call for support during times of need.” I won’t list people by name here, but on my list I’ve included a few people from my family, friends, and ASCA group.
I am grateful I have people in my life I can trust. Just knowing I can trust them makes a significant difference in my experience of being in the world. Gaining some experience with ASCA, I was inspired to begin a similar support group/session with a friend. Finding this kind of peer-support to be so helpful, I decided to begin this blog. For me, blogging about my experience is a part of shattering the vacuum that can shackle victims to faux-shame.
If you, dear reader, have experienced any kind of violation or abuse, I encourage you to get not only whatever professional help you might need, but equally importantly: find peer support. While professional therapy has its own merits, I have found peer support to be more effective in terms of freeing me from the “vacuum.”