I’m doing two things to directly help myself progress in healing:
- I’ve found a pal to companion each other while we work through The Courage to Heal (and Workbook); we will meet once a month, sharing our writing exercises.
- I am attending an ASCA group once a month.
There are other things I do of course to help myself become whole, but these are the things I’m doing specific to healing from abuse.
Rather than keeping a comprehensive healing-lifestyle in my frame of focus, and constantly feeling like I’m failing (because I’m not consistent in everything; too often pointing out my imperfections to myself), instead I am focusing on these two things. This is good because they are two very good things to do, but also, it is very healthy and helpful for me to focus on what I CAN do.
This seems to be a huge theme for me recently, and it has taken me by surprise. I have spent my entire adult life thus far doing nearly exclusively things in which I am an “expert” or extremely competent. Doing so I have built up great confidence in doing those skills, fulfilling those roles. But when it comes to anything else, I find I have very little confidence. I am surprised by how much courage I require to try new things. So rather than berate myself for not attaining immediate success or consistency with ALL the things I believe I should do for myself, I have chosen to give myself life-blooming grace: focus on a few things I can commit to and then gently and gratefully do them.
May you find and embrace the grace you need today.
Hebrews 4:15-16Revised Standard Version Catholic Edition (RSVCE)
15 For we have not a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sinning. 16 Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.
Hebrews 4:16New International Version (NIV)