It helps to tell our stories. It also helps to hear others tell theirs. Especially when we struggle with painful memories, we can feel alone, isolated in our pain. Each person is a unique individual, but we also share much in common with other human-beings. And, in fact, every human-being, if they live very long at all, will experience pain, even memorable suffering.
It seems ironic to me that the very common experience of pain can make us feel so alone or even alienated from others. Yet, a sense of alienation is often part of what makes the pain so painful, especially if it was inflicted through some form of abuse.
So if you are hurting, know that there really are others who have had similar enough experiences and feelings to sufficiently understand your pain. When you are ready to share your story, look for “safe,” trust-worthy people who will respect and honor you and your story. And when possible, extend them the same grace and listen to theirs. Listening to others is a powerful gift to them, but you may find listening blesses yourself as well, helping you realize we are all in process, hopefully on the journey of becoming whole.